Absolutely Confident.. Drastically Insecure!

We’re all social creatures; and we think that in order to be sociable, we have to be liked by others. Somewhere in our mind, we dread to be considered as social outcasts. We are scared of losing our jobs, our friends, our partners, and there are zillions of things that we want to possess. But some people are so awfully insecure, that ‘doubt’ becomes their middle name! One surprising fragment of insecure people is of the defensive lot, who camouflage their insecurity by their over-confidence, but from within, they are one jellyfish! 

They have values, but they never examine for themselves, as to why they believe in them. They effortlessly resort to manipulative behavior, to try and be in command of their friends and colleagues. They have an unruly knack of forcing people with their preferences, without trying to be compromising. They often seek advice from others, and later, passively-aggressively complain on having to face the consequences. They refuse to accept any constructive criticism and go up to any extent to receive a positive feedback. They are outrageously competitive in nature. Every interaction is a competition for them and every situation is an opportunity for them to dominate others. To create a sense of authority, they either make baseless arguments, or instantaneously change the subject of conversation.Their I-know-it-all attitude makes them constantly correct others.

People pleasers and chatterboxes are another addition to this league. Their typical behavior is to be sweet on the face and be extra nice to people. They speak relentlessly and endlessly, because they have the insecurity of not being heard, and are often known to be backstabbers. An astute observer can read an insecure person very quickly. They are chronic and perpetual liars, who simply lie for no reason at all, just to avoid being judged; but on the contrary, they inherently judge people. Anticipation of rejection or disapproval lead to all such actions, and hence they need reassurances and acknowledgment at all times. 

Insecurities are a strong indicator of our character, and it is a fact that insecure people display their self-doubt without being conscious of it. So, before trying to spot the insecurities in other people we should introspect and dig into our insecurities to reorient our thoughts for an appropriate behavioral pattern for ourselves.